'You need to find new dinner companions': Dude questions if their friends should be angry at them for walking out on a meal

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Feb 14, 2023 11:00 AM EST

This dude ducked out of a dinner party early, making his friends absolutely furious. 

Some people will always take advantage of your generosity! In this post to r/AmItheA******, u/OldAbbreviations6423 had a pressing question regarding his current friend group. The OP is in the awkward position of being one of the higher earners in their friend group, so they've kindly covered tips in the past while the group was out dining. But the OP noticed an interesting pattern of their friends over ordering since the OP is covering some of the cost. They asked for advice on what to do about friends who don't want to pay their share. 

Who among us hasn't made an Irish exit? I get it, but I do agree with commenters who said the OP should have been more direct with their friends about who was going to pay before they left, even if it was a quick mention. We hope the OP finds friends who are a bit less greedy!

After you scroll through this person's precarious dining dilemma, check out these 25 witty pranks that are both harmless and super funny. 

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  • 01
    Organism - 'I excused myself and... I paid my bill at the front of the house and bailed.'
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    Product - . Posted by u/OldAbbreviations6423 16 hours ago r/AmItheA AITA for doing an Irish exit at a restaurant so I wasn't stuck with the bill?
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    Organism - I was lucky enough to get a great job after I graduated. I make pretty good money and my job is challenging but fun. Some of my friends didn't bother with college and some who did go chose less lucrative fields.
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    Font - I'm not rich or anything. I'm not buying a Porsche any time soon. I just have a good salary and very few bills since I still live at home.
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    Facial expression - I got a very nice hiring bonus when I was recruited and I took my friends out for, what I made clear, was a one time celebration.
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    Font - Every once in a while I get together with my friends and go to a restaurant. We usually end up splitting the bill. I don't drink a lot so I might have a beer with my meal but that's it. I know they don't al have disposable income like I do so I usually also cover the tip. They tend to go overboard. Like one girl orders five or six drinks over the course of the meal. And she will order appetizers "for the table". I never eat the appetizers because they are almost always deep fried and I te
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    Font - Last Saturday we went out to a nice Mexican place. The food was excellent and my margarita was delicious. That girl brought her girlfriend and a couple of the guys brought their girlfriends.
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    Font - I mentioned that I had to have an early night. After we finished eating I hung around until everyone started ordering more drinks and desserts and stuff. And I'm not joking here one girl ordered a to go meal for her roommate.
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    Font - I excused myself and went to the bathroom. Afterwards I paid my bill at the front of the house and bailed.
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    Font - I started getting texts about 45 minutes later. The bill came and they wanted to split it. I told them I already paid and had to leave. My bill was $55 including tip. The three guys and the girl were going to be splitting the remaining $640. They wanted to split their guests bill as well. The other guy who didn't invite someone was saying it wasn't fair for him to split the bill when I didn't. I said that I had paid my food bill and I wasn't going to give more.
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    Font - They ended up each paying their own bill and one guy ended up paying for his, his date's, and her roommate's food. He is especially salty about the situation.
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    Font - The other single guy also ended up just paying for his own stuff and he is also in their bad books.
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    Font - I feel bad for leaving without saying goodbye but if I had stuck around I would be subsidizing food for strangers. Edit I'm sorry if I offended anyone with the term Irish exit. I didn't know it was an insult.
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    Human body - 313 Wolverine. 16 hr. ago NTA - Good job reading the room.
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    Font - TogarSucks 14 hr. ago Aficionado [13] As ΝΤΑ OP should also note that there wasn't a single complaint about the Irish goodbye, just that there were problems splitting the bill. Also, in the age of Venmo who the h splits a bill evenly anymore!?! I've never seen anyone under 40 want to do that unless they were trying to get others to cover their excess.
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    Font - RavenLunatyk. 13 hr. ago And that is how it should be done. Pay your own. They are salty because they over imbibed so others foot some of the bill. Nice job. NTA.
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    Font - unpopularcryptonite 11 hr. ago Parta pant [1] NTA, time to make an Irish exit from this "friend group" as well.
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    Font - Imcc875 hr. ago NTA, also I'm Irish. Wtf did Irish exit come from? We pay our way, we're actually a very generous bunch. 46 Share Continue this thread → Suzdg 4 hr. ago Parta_pant [2] Absolutely. But, Irish here, I use the expression all the time. When did it become offensive and for God's sake why? Also NTA. Well played
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    Font - Irish Whiskey 15 hr. ago Aficionado [12] A They ended up each paying their own bill and one guy ended up paying for his, his date's, and her roommate's food. He is especially salty about the situation. Yeah, because he was trying to get everyone else to pay for it and failed. He'd also be salty if he tried to steal $100 out of your wallet and you caught him. NTA. Yes, it would have been better to be more direct, but the reason for their upset isn't because you left without saying anything
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    Font - InaGlass Guitar 15 hr. ago Parta pant [2] Funny how his date and her roommate didn't pay in either. Maybe he should be salty at them instead.
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    Font - Sea-Ad3724 14 hr. ago Enthusiast [5] A If I were OP I would definitely be rethinking these friendships. Totally NTA but the people who apparently ordered certain things because they thought OP would be subsidizing the bill are.
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    Font - Dashcamkitty 10 hr. ago. edited 3 hr. ago Many of these people sound too entitled and greedy to enjoy having a meal with.
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    Font - 7sail 16 hr. ago NTA. I hate people who know either the meal will be split or paid for by the host but still order a meal to go. My blood boils thinking of how many dinners I had dealing with the entitlement.
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    Font - T Ishmael75 13 hr. ago Somewhat related to this. I got to experience someone facing some real justice for this kind of behavior. In my line of work we often have vendors take us out for lunches or dinners. They are even nice enough to let us take a dessert back for our assistants if we want. But of course one guy just didn't know enough to be gracious and accept the current system. This dumba started ordering dinners to take home to his wife and kids! He would order his own food and then
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    Font - Gua_Bao 11 hr. ago I hate when people take advantage of generosity. Someone is willing to take you for a meal, doesn't matter how much money they have you should be respectful and grateful for the nice gesture. Ordering more and more, bringing people, and ordering to go?? That's not cool.
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    Font - Dont Need The Points 10 hr. ago Parta ipant [3] but still order a meal to go I'm not from the USA but lived there for a period of 3 years... I've never ever heard or seen people do this. It's slightly understandable, but mental to expect the group to share the costs!
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    Font - Anxious_Plan5591 - 16 hr. ago Parta ipant [1] ΝΤΑ But I feel like you should have gone back to the table and said I paid for my portion, good to see you guys, I have an early morning. Other than that, you're not expected to pay anyone else's bills so they have no cause to be upset.
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    Font - PurpleGreyPunk - 16 hr. ago Enthusiast [5] A NTA it's best to let wait staff know up front that the checks are separate. Say it in front of everyone. You're not an ATM. Good for you for paying your bill & your tip then getting out of there 902 Share Ok-Structure6795 11 hr. ago Parta: pant [1] As a server, I have no problem when a party requests a split bill - it's much easier to do at the beginning than it is at the end if everyone is drinking and ordering apps and all
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